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We all know what the exit polls are saying. Personally, I’m disgusted. I’m disgusted because I’m not a fucking dog in a cage salivating mindlessly at a piece of meat being waved in front of me, goading me into an attack. I would like to think that none of is, but if the media continues to incessantly pit blacks against gays in the fight for equality, I wonder how long it will take before someone goes all twitchy and takes the bait. DO NOT DO IT, Y’ALL.

Can you imagine how delicious it would be for the Mormons and Republicans and right-wing media if gays and blacks somehow managed to wage war on one another? They would piss themselves with joy! Are we being set up? I wouldn’t put it past them to snatch up the quickest, most convenient way to wipe out both minority groups (blacks, gays) with one stone – if it’s this easy, why, who needs a Republican president in the White House after all? I refuse to perpetuate a cycle of oppression because someone is telling me who to blame, who is at fault for my status as a second-class citizen, where I might displace my anger and frustration and outrage. I won’t do that because it is false in every way. I know better than that. I hope we all do.

Besides, I bet the old boys club is out there already thinking how much fun it will be to lean back and watch while we tear one another to pieces. My heart cannot take that happening. The tearing or being torn to pieces.

Thus, I recommend the following, in this order:

1. Read Alice Walker’s letter to Obama, here.

2. Sign the petition to re-open Prop 8 for California, here.

3. March tonight, if you wish, but march in peace and with dignity and clarity of mind. If this is, indeed, something like the second coming of a civil rights movement, be mindful of how one can use that sweet adrenaline to fuel oneself forward into change, as opposed to being driven back senselessly by it. There’s a difference and it is the responsibility of each and every one of us to comport ourselves with grace in the face of such pervasive and far-reaching hate, fear, intolerance and discrimination.

M & I are going to bundle up and take the petite out for some peaceful protestation of Prop 8.

Don’t know where to go in your community? Ta-da, I’m so service-y:

Friday Community Gatherings

Costa Mesa
9 p.m. | South Coast Plaza
Bristol Street & Town Center Drive

Long Beach
6:45 p.m. to 9 p.m. | Broadway and Redondo

Merced
6 p.m. | Veterans Park, M Street
Contact: Leslie or Eileen, PLFLAG Merced 209.725.1140

Mission Viejo
4 to 7 p.m. | 200 Civic Center

Palm Springs
5 p.m. | Palm Springs City Hall

Santa Barbara
5 p.m. to 6 p.m. | De La Guerra Plaza Street
700-756 De La Guerra Plaza

San Diego.
9 p.m. | Laurel and Sixth Avenue
March to City Hall (202 C)

San Francisco
5:30 p.m. | Civic Center
Market and 7th to Dolores Park

In the name of the one that I love and all my fancy friends,

FFAF

(Okay, so maybe that the gayest obscure Cure reference ever made in the history of life, but read on. Please.)

Here’s the thing, kittens. There will always be those who see life and those living it in a more black & white fashion, and then there are those who innately grasp at the grays and gradations. That’s important to remember before walking across the plains of anyone’s identity – we never know where potential landmines are buried until, well, until we know.

And, really, let’s face it – it’s not worth running your Yves Saint Laurent Volume Effet Faux Cils over, you know? So, please donate to the fight against Prop. 8 right now. Seriously. Your friends and lovers out here in California are fucking DAYS away from being stripped of their rights by a bunch of ignorant, fear-mongering bigots with deep pockets. Those fuckers just raised $3M. It’s insane.

DO NOT WANT.

HRC and EQCA and everybody else (the good guys) are trying to raise $3M to counter it by Friday night. Peep the Ugly Betty cast ad against Prop 8, then share it like crazy with everyone you know:

The Harvey Milk movie (starring Sean Penn) premiered in SF’s Castro last night (dude hotties abound in these pics, so have at it, all you peen-loving ladies).

Some POS motherfucker beat a gay with his YES ON PROP 8 sign whilst spitting out homophobic slurs in Torrance, CA.

Senator Dianne Feinstein has put out an ad urging Californians to vote No on Prop. 8, too:

Of course, the folks behind Prop. 8 are exploiting children to back their vile, hateful arguments. You may or may not have heard that some adorable (and deliriously happy) SF schoolchildren went on a field trip to see their lesbian teacher get married at City Hall in SF not long ago. Not only did Prop. 8 supporters stoop to terrible lows by attacking this otherwise wonderful and memorable learning experience to garner support, they went even lower by using video of the kids in their ads.

From the article:

In their letter to the Prop 8 campaign, the parents wrote: “We are absolutely outraged that you have chosen, without permission, to shamelessly hijack the images of our innocent children to promote a cause that we in no way, shape or form support. It is even more maddening that you have willfully and calculatingly edited the images of our children, with menacing music in the background, in a way that is completely contrary to their nature and harmful to them.”

Here’s a video about that (not the one w/ kids, I am NOT re-posting that awful shit):

Y’all? I am seriously, seriously, seriously freaking out and getting more tense and anxious with each passing day. I keep donating money I can’t really afford to donate to fight this shit. I have the feeling I will be spending lots of time at the field office downtown phone banking and stuff this weekend.

IF YOU LIVE IN CALIFORNIA, PLS. MAKE TIME TO VOLUNTEER AT A FIELD OFFICE NEAR YOU.

IF YOU CANNOT DONATE, AT LEAST CONSIDER SPREADING THE WORD.

Here is the list and contact info – if you don’t see anything near you or are having trouble, let me know and I’ll try and put you in touch with someone: